Attachment is a relationship
Attachments differ from people to people. You cannot build a relationship without an attachment. It is about the quality of attachment. Humans are hard-wired to social interaction. It is in psychology, history, it is in our genes, and it is everywhere. We cannot live without people. it is not how our system works.
The quality of secure attachment is defined by its secure base and safe haven. In simple words, if the idea of attachment figure gives you peace, calms you down, makes you feel better and safe, and this allows you to explore the environment and make you feel confident, this is the secure base. If you can return to the attachment figure for comfort and safety while feeling distressed, this is called safe haven. Secure attachment works like that. To be emotionally mature, you have to have secure attachments.
That's why we love our families. Because they give secure attachments to us. In our later life, we will have our own family, we need to be securely attached to have a peaceful and happy life. And it takes time to build this attachment. It cannot happen immediately. Even for infants it takes months, years to have a strong, healthy, secure attachment with their mothers.
@MinnesotanPeggy
Attachments differ from people to people. You cannot build a relationship without an attachment. It is about the quality of attachment. Humans are hard-wired to social interaction. It is in psychology, history, it is in our genes, and it is everywhere. We cannot live without people. it is not how our system works.
The quality of secure attachment is defined by its secure base and safe haven. In simple words, if the idea of attachment figure gives you peace, calms you down, makes you feel better and safe, and this allows you to explore the environment and make you feel confident, this is the secure base. If you can return to the attachment figure for comfort and safety while feeling distressed, this is called safe haven. Secure attachment works like that. To be emotionally mature, you have to have secure attachments.
That's why we love our families. Because they give secure attachments to us. In our later life, we will have our own family, we need to be securely attached to have a peaceful and happy life. And it takes time to build this attachment. It cannot happen immediately. Even for infants it takes months, years to have a strong, healthy, secure attachment with their mothers.
@MinnesotanPeggy