both lost their parents for a big period as the the war in their country got them imprisoned/moved
they were alone, having to feed their big household of little brothers and sisters.
they didnt have computers, let alone internet until relatively recently.
BUT, despite all of this, one got 1530, another 1570, one built blind "map-navigator" and another something in AI that 5 schools are using.
when i say your story of difficulty is not as difficult in the eyes of admissions officers, as there are people like them and others from syria, ukraine, and others where it is genuinely difficult, i mean this. still, they got what is needed even tho they had no money to even take SAT. both got funded by their teachers at school. as obama put it,
Nobody cares how tough your upbringing was. Nobody cares if you suffered some discrimination. And moreover, you have to remember that whatever you've gone through, it pales in comparison to the hardships previous generations endured — and they overcame them. And if they overcame them, you can overcome them, too.
simply complaining that your school, environment, and finances were difficult is not enough. yes, your story matters. but you should show some kind of growth, some kind of action, initiatives you took to change it.
but my larger point is that you cant really stand out if you talk about problems alone. rather, if you talk about academic ideas that excite you, academic research you have done/studied, thats where you can be the strongest. i have a very close friend applying to colleges. she has literally published a paper on a niche topic that only elite economists study, worked in real, competitive consulting, and had big research experience. but in the essay, she talks about those same problems that every other girl from any country can tell. yes, it matters, but why not show your best side, the side where no one can talk about, the side where you are number one expert in the world among your peers? it puzzles me.