You grow when you realize there is no one backing you:
I am one of the luckiest person to have no one backing me up to a sense and I see this as a luck instead of an unfortunate thing.
Reason for that being is that when I moved to Tashkent, leaving my family (That was a big thing back in the day) I realized that I have to study hard, talk to people that I don’t know, take care of myself, know my way, spend money wisely or else I had to go back to Andijan where I cannot grow as quickly as if I were in Tashkent. That pushed me to work even harder since the counter way was going home. I didn’t know a single person that could help me in achieving my goals.
What I did was doing the uncomfortable, talk to people, create those awkward moments after saying how are you and knowing them better. I was an introvert back then or extrovert that hasn’t been discovered yet. A lot of people and I say it, coming from villages or countrysides like me are mostly undiscovered extroverts who find it weird to reach out to people or just to keep a normal convo with a stranger.
After realizing that it is either doing the uncomfortable or going home, I chose the former. Stayed, Learned, Discovered, Conquered. After a year, I found my people, my network that pushed me to the place where I am now.
But would it happen if I was “lucky” in a sense to have let’s say relative (GUY) that happens to be in Tashkent that could help me with breathing in the city.
My answer is a big NO. I would take him for granted and stay in my zone not differentiating between Home and Tashkent since someone’s got my back (Parents/The GUY). I would always largely depend on someone to help me with breathing.
I agree that having people like the GUY is helpful but not for personal growth.
This perception was developed over a period of observations and Next time you see yourself dependent on smb, Remember you are not at HOME anymore. It is always better to be out, grow and miss home then be home and not grow.
I am one of the luckiest person to have no one backing me up to a sense and I see this as a luck instead of an unfortunate thing.
Reason for that being is that when I moved to Tashkent, leaving my family (That was a big thing back in the day) I realized that I have to study hard, talk to people that I don’t know, take care of myself, know my way, spend money wisely or else I had to go back to Andijan where I cannot grow as quickly as if I were in Tashkent. That pushed me to work even harder since the counter way was going home. I didn’t know a single person that could help me in achieving my goals.
What I did was doing the uncomfortable, talk to people, create those awkward moments after saying how are you and knowing them better. I was an introvert back then or extrovert that hasn’t been discovered yet. A lot of people and I say it, coming from villages or countrysides like me are mostly undiscovered extroverts who find it weird to reach out to people or just to keep a normal convo with a stranger.
After realizing that it is either doing the uncomfortable or going home, I chose the former. Stayed, Learned, Discovered, Conquered. After a year, I found my people, my network that pushed me to the place where I am now.
But would it happen if I was “lucky” in a sense to have let’s say relative (GUY) that happens to be in Tashkent that could help me with breathing in the city.
My answer is a big NO. I would take him for granted and stay in my zone not differentiating between Home and Tashkent since someone’s got my back (Parents/The GUY). I would always largely depend on someone to help me with breathing.
I agree that having people like the GUY is helpful but not for personal growth.
This perception was developed over a period of observations and Next time you see yourself dependent on smb, Remember you are not at HOME anymore. It is always better to be out, grow and miss home then be home and not grow.