Attachment Types versus Songs (Part 2)
Insecure-avoidant attachment. The behaviors of insecure-avoidant attachment include suppressing the emotions, relying on one-self, avoidance of an attachment figure, and distant relationships. In this attachment, one can show a relatively little distress about the leaving of an attachment figure, and in times of distress, when they are being upset, they again avoid the caregiver. The song “Someone like you” by Adele can exemplify this attachment type. In this song, even though Adele is showing deep emotional pain, she chooses the way to rely on herself and find another way to cope with it rather than seeking comfort or safety, and expressing her feelings openly, and distancing herself from the attachment figure. Avoidant attachment behavior often occurs when a person experiences attachment related stressors such as rejection. In the song, the narrator experiences a breakup from a loved one, instead of seeking emotional comfort and attempting to solve the issue, she tries to control herself and hides her true feelings. For example, “I wish nothing but the best for you, too” phrases highlight the emotional suppression. She is showing herself detached from the relationship and masking it with wishing the best to the attachment figure. The internal working model of insecure-avoidant attachment is defined by the dismissive or unavailable caregivers in their past. It can result in learning to rely on oneself solely, not seeking for protection when distressed, and disbelieving the fact that their emotional needs are important and can be met. In the lines “I hate to turn up out of the blue, uninvited, but I couldn’t stay away, I couldn’t fight”, the character is trying to hide her emotional state. But her attachment is activated and she gets back to her lost self, even though she is suppressing her need of support. The song draws strong demonstration of insecure-avoidant attachment by highlighting the emotional suppression, choosing independence over intimacy and masking her feelings by distancing herself from them.
P.S. This was the funnest paper I have ever written to be honest. Developmental Psychology papers are always fun.
@MinnesotanPeggy
Insecure-avoidant attachment. The behaviors of insecure-avoidant attachment include suppressing the emotions, relying on one-self, avoidance of an attachment figure, and distant relationships. In this attachment, one can show a relatively little distress about the leaving of an attachment figure, and in times of distress, when they are being upset, they again avoid the caregiver. The song “Someone like you” by Adele can exemplify this attachment type. In this song, even though Adele is showing deep emotional pain, she chooses the way to rely on herself and find another way to cope with it rather than seeking comfort or safety, and expressing her feelings openly, and distancing herself from the attachment figure. Avoidant attachment behavior often occurs when a person experiences attachment related stressors such as rejection. In the song, the narrator experiences a breakup from a loved one, instead of seeking emotional comfort and attempting to solve the issue, she tries to control herself and hides her true feelings. For example, “I wish nothing but the best for you, too” phrases highlight the emotional suppression. She is showing herself detached from the relationship and masking it with wishing the best to the attachment figure. The internal working model of insecure-avoidant attachment is defined by the dismissive or unavailable caregivers in their past. It can result in learning to rely on oneself solely, not seeking for protection when distressed, and disbelieving the fact that their emotional needs are important and can be met. In the lines “I hate to turn up out of the blue, uninvited, but I couldn’t stay away, I couldn’t fight”, the character is trying to hide her emotional state. But her attachment is activated and she gets back to her lost self, even though she is suppressing her need of support. The song draws strong demonstration of insecure-avoidant attachment by highlighting the emotional suppression, choosing independence over intimacy and masking her feelings by distancing herself from them.
P.S. This was the funnest paper I have ever written to be honest. Developmental Psychology papers are always fun.
@MinnesotanPeggy